So I am going to brag about my friends for a second because they are amazing. I am also going to get a little nostalgic and post a bunch of photos of us. I have a core group of friends that I have pretty much known since birth, maybe before. In fact, we were probably high-fiving each other from within our mom’s tummies.
By high school, we had a strong group of friends that did everything together. But the end of high school came, and we all went our separate ways: Argentina, New York City, Colorado, New Orleans, Reno and me to Oregon.
Just because we were apart doesn’t mean we have lost our friendship. We have worked hard to stay in tough even though we are long distance. Here are a few tips for staying BFFs:
Facebook group message or group email
Freshman year of college two of my friends and I started a group Facebook message. We would write to each other about every other day. This was huge for us. It made me feel close and connected with my best friends and gave me a place to share all my important college memories. A couple years later, we added another friend into the message. The four of us still write in our group message and it has been 6.5 years. There is truly no better diary of our lives.
Skype group chat
Schedule a time with multiple friends to all get on and talk with each other. It will feel more like old times than you can image. Skype recently change their payment structure and group chat is free!
Write a quick update to each other before you call or Skype
This is huge when you have a limited time to talk. You don’t need to be spending that valuable time explaining the things you did last weekend. You need to be be spending that time getting deep into the topics. Write a message about the boy you just met and link to his Facebook profile so that during your call you can gush about more than just his name and where he is from.
Make a photo album or photo collage
My friend, Meredith made me this photo book our senior year of high school and I love it. It has so many memories from high school and is always so fun to show people my book or flip through it when I am feeling nostalgic.
Take advantage of Instagram or Snapchat
It’s amazing how much of the little things you actually miss when you are away. Sure they will keep you updated on their new puppy or a job promotion but its the little things like the perfect fitting dress or delicious home-cooked meal that makes you feel the closest to them. Send quick snapchats of the mundane because your closest friends will understand how amazing your new pad of sticky notes really is.
For international friends, use Whats App
Similar to Snapchap or Instagram one of the hardest things when my friends were international is the inability to text. It’s the short “checking-in”, “I’m thinking of you” that are the most important. That’s where Whats App comes in handy. It is a free messaging service that uses wi-fi so there are no international charges.
Agree one weekend to each make a batch of cookies and send half to a friend. Or split between a big group. Everyone loves getting presents in the mail and cookie presents are even better.
Take the time to get together anytime you are all in the same town
Lucky for me, all my friend’s parents still live in Carson City so we are usually back for Christmas. If this is the case, plan a brunch, dessert, or drinks. Visiting home and family is always a busy time and it is difficult to see everyone. Plan one night that everyone can get together so you have a chance to catch up.
Take turns visiting each other
Visiting each other in their new city is always so much fun. It’s great to finally meet their new friends and check out their new life. Try making a plan to all meet up at one person’s house every summer. Or plan a trip together
Remember these friends will always be there for you and you need to make new friends in your new situation.
Just remember, don’t get so rapped up in your old friends that you forget to make new ones. They will always be there for you.
I was lucky and LOVED my freshman roommate. We were randomly matched and it worked out great. In fact, I was her maid of honor in her wedding last summer. Now we live in the same city which is great 🙂